Do you think a marriage license should have a renewal or expiration date, just like a driver's license?
A huge emotional part of my divorce from S was the fact that as far as I was concerned marriage is forever. We swore before both my God and his gods that we would be together forever. I really didn't want to break a promise to God. The annulment helped me get over that. I have come to realize that I was never truly married to Stacey in the catholic sense of the word because there was a fundamental lie underneath it all. We lied to ourselves and a marriage can't be built on that.
J feels the same way about marriage as I do. There will be no divorce this time. No need for any updates to our marriage license.